Tips for Creating a Home that Feels Like Yours
Have you ever walked into someone’s home and thought to yourself, “This is so THEM!”
Something about the space they’ve created feels like an accurate and tangible expression of who they are as a person, and from the minute you walk in, it’s unmistakable whose home you’re in. As I write about this idea, a few different homes (& the people who live in them) come to mind…
I think of my friends Matt and Adrianna...their home is a beautiful one and is decorated to their tastes, but the longer you’re there, the more you notice what makes their home unique. In the corner, you’ll see Reebok trainers or a kettlebell, ready for on-the-go or at home workouts. On their chalk wall, Bible verses and worship lyrics are written and pictures of past generations are framed on the hutch. Mementos from her career in softball and their life together in SoCal are strung about the house, making it clear they’re the sentimental type. Everything is warm and cozy, and you might notice a paw print or set of blocks on the floor, indicators of both a golden retriever and newly mobile toddler. Walking through their door, there’s just no guessing — this is Matt and Adrianna’s house!
One of my first examples of this was the house I grew up in.
My parents are deeply hospitable people, and due to their lifestyle in ministry, we always had people over for dinner, or a Bible study happening in the living room. Over the years, I’ve heard countless guests remark on how homey, welcoming, and beautiful they thought our home to be. So many would talk about how inspired they felt, and how they wished my Mom would come over to decorate their space too! Our home was usually clean but also felt lived in, never like a museum or a place children couldn’t be. Over the years, the banister has worn and the pictures on the walls are a mix of old and new. Life continues with adult children in and out, but home it will always be.
Recently, Reed and I were invited over to dinner at our friends Matt and Elina’s apartment, and every time we come over, I take a minute to look around and notice the details. Elina is probably the biggest fan of Halloween you (or I) will ever meet, and year round, she keeps up a little decorative ghost they’ve nicknamed Ghosty. He’s always plugged in and Elina will add seasonal additions like a Santa hat in December or a St. Patrick’s Day hat in March to keep Ghosty “up-to-date.” It’s hilarious and so indicative of who they are — playful people who don’t take themselves too seriously. I noticed some of their photos were being displayed on recycled Cholula caps, held up by paper clips...which is absolutely genius and a subtle nod to their deep love for hot sauce. These personal elements, mixed with their great taste and laid back nature, make any guest feel like family.
It’s these kinds of homes...the ones you walk into and feel like you belong, the ones that give you a window into the people who live inside, and the ones that aren’t too “perfect” — these are the ones I love the most.
Of course, everyone’s approach of home is personal and unique to them. Perhaps you want to evoke a different emotion with your space, like “open” or “free”, so having very little in your home accomplishes that goal, and makes you feel at peace. Maybe what you’re after is basically a replica of something you liked on Pinterest because the idea of decorating your home without any direction or preexisting inspiration feels like too intimidating. This is certainly a judgement free zone...and I am by no means an expert. You do YOU! But I am of the preference and opinion that no matter what your design approach is...you shouldn’t lose yourself in the attempt to achieve a particular “look.” Even if your style is minimal, I think people should walk in and feel like your home still feels like you!
Here are my tips for making a home that feels like yours…
4 Tips for Making a Home that Feels Like Yours